You Can Be Better Than Just a "Good" Boyfriend: Here's How
Being in love is one thing, and keeping that love alive is another. An ideal man needs to master the art of both. Once you have found your dream girl, follow these tips to keep her head over heels for you.
1. Always Know Your Girl
Always be interested in learning more about your girlfriend. When you’re talking with her or chatting with her online, ask inquisitive questions that may open up into personal discussions—though of course, don’t ask a boring series of long questions, it's not an interview. Have good conversations with her about important memories, childhood experiences, future plans, desires, dreams, and future ambitions.
Remember, you're getting to know her every day and in many different ways, not just through questions and conversations. Study her; know her interests, likes, dislikes, favorites, hobbies, and fantasies.
Knowing your girl well will help you choose the perfect gifts to give her, plan thoughtful surprises, and perform other gestures that will win her heart because she will be able to tell you really listened. It’ll also save you some trouble by avoiding unnecessary misunderstandings that might have occurred otherwise. You will know your girl more than anyone else, and when the two of you are deeply connected intellectually, it will strengthen the bond of your relationship to such an extent that you will become inseparable. You will be different than her past boyfriends or other male friends because what you share with her is something completely unique, which she won't get anywhere else.
2. Be Sweet and Caring
Always remember to do sweet things for her—do not only rely on sweet turns of phrase. Actions speak louder than words, so show the amount of care and concern you have for her through nice gestures.
For example, give her a gift, but make it thoughtful—something that you know she wants or needs, whether that be books or something related to her field or profession which you know will help her in the long run. Simplify her life that way and in many other different ways. If something is bothering her, then be her rock and solve it for her, and if she mentions something is depressing her, sympathize with her and offer her a caring ear and a shoulder to cry on. Sometimes people just want you to listen instead of just proposing an immediate solution to their problems.
If you're there when she’s falling asleep, end her day with something sweet, like a forehead kiss, poem, short song, short story with a happy ending, joke that suits her sense of humor, or anything that'll make her dream of you that night. You don't necessarily have to follow this routine, just be creative. In the morning, remember to call her and ask her how she is, then ask her how she slept. Know whether she is feeling sick. Be the first one to do these things, and be thoughtful and considerate towards her. This shows that you care not only about her body, but also about her as a person. Do something special for her once in a while that'll make her remember you when you're not with her.
Warning: Don't call her multiple times a day. You need to set limits, as attention can backfire if you are suffocating her with your clingy or needy attitude. Depending on your personalities, you don't even need to call her every day. Give her the time to miss you as well.
3. Be Surprising and Spontaneous
Every once in a while, prepare something very nice and big for the two of you as a surprise. It can be anything from preparing a lunch or dinner to taking her somewhere exotic or fun; just plan it, then surprise her. For your soulmate, you want do something that will make her feel special; do things that will make her realize that she’s lucky to have you.
For example, take her out to a quiet, elegant restaurant for dinner. Then after a nice meal, serve her a dessert in the form of an excellent poem you've composed yourself. Or suddenly announce an impromptu scavenger hunt or hiking trip you've been secretly planning.
Things should be prepared well beforehand, and carried out in an organised way. These surprises and secret activities don't have to involve expensive material things, just fun things that you know that both of you will enjoy together. Be unpredictable, but in a good way—this creates anticipation, as she keeps wondering what's next. You'll never bore her this way, and your relationship will always be vibrant.
Don't ever be predictable or drive your relationship into a routine. Trust me, you'll thank me later.
4. Challenge Her and Don't Be a Pushover
Girls love a challenge just as much as men do. Sometimes, being too straightforward and serious in a relationship can be a big source of boredom and complacency. Keep her life interesting by challenging her to do new things—for example, if she runs for fun, but never runs in races, suggest training for a half marathon together.
You can also break up monotony by teasing her playfully (don't be annoying) about something she really likes, whether it’s a certain food, the way you touch her, the words she likes to hear you say, or something which she wants you to do for her. Make her really want it before you tease her; this can make the entire relationship more interesting every time you do it. Have a wide sense of humor; don’t ever take things too seriously—not even your mistakes. Instead, learn from them, take the time to laugh them off together, and continue enjoying things to the fullest.
Lastly, don't hand out compliments in a way that isn't meaningful—this can make you appear desperate, insecure, or insincere. Instead, wait for a moment that you honestly appreciate, so that when you comment on it, it's important to her. Being too easy or handing out flattering compliments on demand does not challenge her to be her best. Instead, by judicious and teasing in a creative, fun, and loving way—though without being rude at any cost. You'll see that this is what keeps the relationship stimulating and alive.
5. Help Her with Her Chores
If you live near her or with her, be a gentleman and help her out with her house chores. Remember, chores are the things which are not fun to do, but we do them anyway because we have to. So if you show up and help her do her chores, which are neither fun nor something you have to do, it’ll prove it that you care about her and are concerned about her, and she’ll love you for it.
Go help her run some errands or do the grocery shopping. Then make it fun, unlike the boring task it would have been if she was alone. When working together with her, also take the time to talk about your relationship, make fun of the activity you’re doing, or joke around to make the atmosphere lively, which will make her notice the difference when you're absent. She’ll know how fun it would to be to one day live with you. Plus it’ll earn you points with her parents and friends. A handy boyfriend is every girl's pride, and there are not many of them. In fact they're a rare species :-)
Warning: Don’t waste too much time with her, or it’ll make her be uncomfortable. Remember to give her space. She needs time to herself to do her own things and recharge.
6. Be Her Hero in Every Aspect of Her Life
Besides helping her with her chores around the house, be the kind of man who looks out for her and is there for her every time she needs you. Be the kind of man who is there to shelter her from the storms of life.
When she’s sick, go to her place/hospital, take care of her, and be beside her sickbed to cheer her up and let her know that she’ll be just fine. When somebody or something is bothering her, stand up for her with confidence and fight for her. Give her the feeling of safety, comfort, confidence, and assurance when she’s with you. Also try to excel in your professional life, so when she is dealing with obstacles to her ambitions and goals, you can be there to inspire her, support her in her interests, and motivate her to pursue her dreams. Give her advice and help her out even if she doesn't ask for it; sometimes girls want you to notice things and help them out without their having to ask for assistance. All this is how a relationship grows and develops; this sort of partnership interaction is what builds invincible bonds between couples.
Warning: Avoid coming off as controlling or manipulative. Do not call her incessantly wanting to know where she is. Also don't be excessively insecure when she’s not with you. Remember that she needs some time alone and can also take care of herself.
7. Be Understanding and Patient with Your Girl
If your girl isn’t ready for any intimate activities, understand her and be patient with her. A lot is happening in a girl’s mind when trying to choose a life-long partner; she has to think things through again before accepting the fact that you’ll be her life-long partner. Forcing her to move too quickly or do things she isn't ready to do is harassment and will damage your relationship. Trust me, you have a lot of control about how a girls feels about you if you know women and what makes them fall for a guy. If you were unaware of how to treat a woman, and as a result, you did something to upset her, be the one to apologize and mean it. A large amount of sympathy has to flow from you towards her.
Instead of trying to force the issue, be patient and let nature handle the rest. Let her come to you when she’s ready, and she will—depending on what you're doing to her or how you're treating her, of course. Everything that you do has an impact, either increasing or reducing your chances with her. Respect her decisions, and she will respect yours as well.
More than that, she will love you for your patience and consideration. Love isn’t really only about making love to the girl of your dreams. More importantly, you've got to really care about her and be sensitive to her feelings. If you have a moody girlfriend, instead of being angry with her mood swings, just be the man she thinks you are and be the one to calm her down. Strong men aren't impulsive or easily angered, they're the ones who settle things down—in any situation, not just relationship with your girlfriend. Learn to be a man who isn't annoyed easily by people—someone who's very calm in any situation.
Girls respond to how you treat them. Whatever you want from them, they'll give you if you approach them in the right manner, not just sex but many other things. As a man you ought to know that and be proactive in your approach with them, patiently and effortlessly.
If she isn't into you, then it's obvious that you haven't created an atmosphere that would support her being into you; not her fault, dude, it's yours!
8. Be in Control of Things
You have to take control over your life and your relationship. Be the driver of the world around you. Be proactive. Drive your life instead of letting it drive you.
Women and girls love a guy who has confidence in what he does. They fall for men who handle things and act according to what needs to be done. Make your life a well-organised one by putting proper programs in your activities and routines. Have definite goals, make a plan of reaching them, and integrate that plan into your daily activities. Accomplish your goals no matter how small they are because they'll give you so much power to handle big tasks in a demanding situations and reach bigger goals. Exude confidence in everything that you do, whether or not you’re together; your confidence has to be abundant and authentic. Take control of your life and everything that surrounds you. When she’s mad, upset, sad, or unhappy with something, know what to do in order to right her mood. When something bad happens, know what to do. Try different things to cheer her up until you get it right. Trial and error is a great teacher. Don’t only be her boyfriend, but also be her guardian and caregiver. When you're in control, you're exuding an energy that is extremely attractive to women and girls of all types, something which she'll turn you into her own personal addiction.
Girls of all ages loves a man who's in control of things, it provides the ultimate sense of security.
9. Be Romantic
Buy flowers and her favorite food to woo and surprise her the next time you meet. Find an excellent spot like a beach, so the two of you can sit and talk. Then when you’re there, sweet talk her, remind her of the qualities that drew you to her in the first place, restate her beauty, and be charming and genuine. Hold her when both of you are walking alone, she wants you to; put your hand around her waist when the time is right. Greet her with a hug while you whisper something nice in her ear, like, “You’re so beautiful, and I’m very lucky to have you in my life.” Remember to compliment her every day, feed her sweet words that suit her and are sincere. That's the best gift you can give her.
Think outside of the box to charm the girl of your dreams. Buy her a big teddy bear to hug at night or mugs or gold necklaces engraved with her name. Alternatively, you could craft handmade gifts, which are often even better because they let her know that she's on your mind. Make her a great dinner or better yet arrange for the two of you to make it together, with candlelight and soft music—nothing like it.
Warning: Don't do any one of these things too often, as she will become used to it, and it will eventually lose its intended impact. Do it often enough to be characteristic of your relationship, but not so often as to become part of your everyday life. Be creative and find a million ways to be romantic, so she doesn't get used to the same routine every time—routine is dangerous in a relationship!
10. Win the Hearts of Her Loved Ones
Don't let life and attention revolve only around her. Your girlfriend will get bored with that no matter how understanding or passionate she is. Make sure to also win the affection of the people who are very close to her, whether they are her parents, siblings, other relatives, or friends. Charm them all, the more the better. Why? Two reasons:
- You’ll have people who have a say in her life to back you up when you screw things up sometimes. They will be the ones to convince her that whatever you did wasn't intentional and that you still love her.
- She will trust you more, since she will know that you’re interested not only in her, but in her company as well. This earns you plenty of points, man!!
Plus talking to her friends, siblings, or parents gives you a different perspective of your girlfriend since you'll know her from different eyes now—you will know what she was like when she was a child and what she was like in school. In short, you will get to know her more in-depth, and that my, friend, is a very important tool to have in your relationship arsenal—it's a cheat sheet for your relationship, because you'll dig up a lot of information about her that will always work on you favor. You can now surprise her with some things that only she and her mother knows, and then she'll be wondering how you found that one out. Or her closest friend will give you a secret weapon to win her heart over once again. Knowing her from her social circle is very important, my friend, so get on it immediately!
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